Forbidden Pleasures: Exploring Anal Sex

Alison Sparks
3 min readMar 5, 2022

I still remember being eighteen years old and, well, not as sexually open-minded as I am today. Although I had already started camming and making some naughty videos here and there, a lot of things still shocked me and/or were off limits. One of them happened to be anal sex.

My mother and I don’t agree on a lot of things, but at the time, we both agreed that anal sex is a no-go. It is a one way road, dirty and will probably lead to anal prolapse, she said. And, regardless of the age, no one wants to be shitting their pants after making some bad decisions. So, fast-forward to my first year of university, when I started dating my second boyfriend. He was the same age as me, and we got along like a house on fire. A couple of months into our on and off relationship, he mentioned wanting to try anal sex. I said no, not really knowing what to expect and not wanting to somehow embarrass myself in front of him, if we did end up trying it.

The biggest worry of mine was that ‘an accident’ might happen during sex. Well, you know what I mean. No one wants to shit themselves in front of their partner, whatever the reason. The next thing was simply not knowing how it would ever be pleasurable for me. Until I actually tried anal sex myself, I had no idea that it is possible to have an orgasm from it (or in my case — several in one go!). And finally — I was worried if it would have lasting consequences, that my mother liked to scare me with. Luckily, all these worries faded after some research and giving it a try myself.

If you’re someone who hasn’t tried anal sex yet, let me tell you — the sensations are very different from what you would experience during vaginal sex. Perhaps, they might even feel overwhelming at first, but once you get in the groove, it feels wonderful. I am not someone who generally cums easily during sex, but anal sex just happens to be the lucky exception. A good ass pounding has left me grabbing the sheets and screaming from pleasure, like not much else. I love it. I fucking love it. And while only two lucky men have had the privilege to fuck me in the ass, I definitely consider myself an anal sex enthusiast. I have even figured out my favourite anal sex positions.

My favourite position to start off ‘the party’ is spoon. It’s perfect for slowly getting stretched out while being held close by your partner. Eventually, I like to spice things up a little, lean forward slightly and be choked while my ass is getting pounded. But, if I want even deeper penetration — nothing beats the good old ‘legs on shoulders’ position. While it certainly is more intense, it will have me cumming hard in no time. How many orgasms can I have during one round? Who knows. Cumming from having my ass pounded has felt so good that I lost the count every single time.

If you’re reading this, you might be the same as me at eighteen — scared to try the forbidden fruit due to some misconceptions. However, if you choose to go for it, just know that it’s even sweeter than you might have thought…

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Alison Sparks

Just a writer, sharing my musings on sex, sexuality, sex work, mental health and LGBTQ+ topics.